Experiences of mothering are distinct from those of parenting and fathering due the normative, gendered cross-sociopolitical construction of motherhood specifically. I work with deep attunement to the gifts and struggles of all parenting — with lived expertise in (once young, single) mothering on the margins — in nuanced, culturally relevant and responsive, systemic context.

• Mothering or fathering as a young person, adolescent parenthood

• Motherblame, mother guilt, and maternal ambivalence

• Parenting on the margins

• Conflict and disconnect between the expectations and experience of parenting

• Protecting and nurturing your experience of self while parenting

• Processing and healing parental regrets and ruptures

• Regretting motherhood, parenthood, or fatherhood. (Because this needs to be said aloud over and over: people do, while loving their child[ren], feeling deeply grateful for their presence, and working to be incredible parents…our work will make space for all of it, all of you)

• Anxieties about being a ‘good’ parent and raising ‘good’ children

• Revolutionary mothering, reproducing justice, parenting as social action

• Spiritual and existential fear, grief, and/or guilt about having or raising children within the sociopolitical and environmental context

• Deciding whether or not to have children

• Deciding whether or not to have an abortion

• Processing and healing abortion grief, guilt, or trauma. (Please know that — as a person who had a child at 16 and who has also had abortions in the years since — I am deeply committed to the fight for reproductive justice, which includes the right to bear or not bear children; to parent with safety, sustainability, and dignity; and to sexual and bodily autonomy. This commitment encompasses the need to tend to the complex responses that can come up for some people after choosing or being pressured, coerced, or forced to have an abortion...and that can be silenced or suppressed by self and others, in part, as a consequence of pro-choice ethics)

• Parenting as a survivor of trauma, cyclebreaking and healing intergenerational trauma

• Tending to and integrating attachment wounds and developmental trauma as you navigate your parent(s) grandparenting

• Repairing ruptures, healing attachment wounds, and cyclebreaking intergenerational trauma while grandparenting

• Navigating interparent, intercultural, and/or intergenerational differences and conflict regarding childbearing, childrearing, and childlessness

• Rebuilding, reconciling, and healing strained, fractured, or severed relationships with young, teenaged, or adult children. (If you are ready for this incredibly meaningful and difficult work — which I, too, have lived as both a child and as a [co-]parent — know that necessary healing is never too late. But — depending on the degree and form of harm and rupture, and your child[ren]’s age — this may require completely letting go of a particular outcome. We cannot demand forgiveness from our wounded children; they do not owe it to us. We are also wounded children: deeply, fully deserving of understanding and forgiveness — and in need of it, if we’re to move through our regret, anguish, and shame to live generatively and wholly…for them and for our-selves. This work takes the form of radically accountable love for your child[ren] as a long term reparative practice — love without end or agenda, because they are and always have been unwaveringly worthy of it, no matter the mistakes their parent[s] made. It’s nurtured and enabled by our tender and [un]yielding process of radically conscious, compassionate, and accountable love for you…because you — dear one, once-and-still little one — need[ed] to know this too)

• Parenting neurodivergent children

• Parenting children with disabilities

• Parenting 2SLGBTQIA+ children

• Parenting as a first generation migrant

• Parenting in multiracial and/or multiethnic families

• Parenting while living apart from your child(ren) (e.g., due to migration, parents’ separation, illness, child apprehension)

• Parenting highly sensitive children

• Parenting children navigating developmental issues and rites of passage, from infancy through adulthood

• Navigating single parenting, co-parenting, step-parenting, and guardianing

• Navigating and processing an empty nest

I work generatively, tenderly, sturdily, and accountably with folx who are actively — and perhaps unexpectedly — processing their righteous rage and despair around wounding directly related to my own positionality (knowing this very experience is integral to relational-​cultural healing), as well as those who are in a process of re‑becoming and (un)learning and are seeking space to make sense of their values, identity, and positionality without doing (further) harm to self, family, and community (knowing this very experience is integral to relational-​cultural healing)…and, of course, all of this may be the deep and wide work of a single, cherished client.

• Mixed-race and multiethnic folx navigating issues of identity, family dynamics, (cross-racial) partnership/relationship, (non)belonging, colourism, and/or white-passing privilege

• First, first-and-a-half, and second generation migrants living through sociopolitical and intergenerational trauma; cross-generational conflict; loss, shift, or confusion of cultural belonging, identity, values, and/or faith; generational rites of passage (e.g., first in family to date, not get married or have children, identify and/or come out as queer, [try to] set boundaries, acknowledge trauma); and other diasporic issues

• White folx committed to just, loving, non-violent, anti-racist relating while critically (re)awakening to and processing the personal and collective implications of white privilege, white fragility, and white body supremacy

• Folx who are exploring, expanding, affirming, and/or questioning their gender and/or sexuality. (Note that I cannot provide assessments for ‘Gender Dysphoria’, transition-related surgeries, or hormone therapy, but can additionally support you in accessing and/or navigating these services as our work tends to the depths and nuances of your related psychological, emotional, spiritual, and political examinations and experiences)

• Multisexual, non-binary, trans folx, and their partners navigating shifts, ruptures, revelations, and (mis)readings of identity and (be)longing

• Men and women who identify as cisgender and/or heterosexual but are wrestling with the constraints and implications of masculinity, femininity, patriarchy, and cisheteronormativity. (Because I often field questions around this, given my therapeutic approach: I do not only work with womxn and 2SLGBTQIA+ clients. I love working with cis and/or heterosexual men, and prioritise the undoing of toxic masculinity — such an unbearable burden, too, for those of us socioculturally tasked with its ‘doing’ — as an integral facet of just, feminist, anti-oppressive, emotion- and trauma-focused healing)

• Folx who are mourning, metabolising, tending to, and integrating the embodied, relational, psychopoliticospiritual effects of racism, anti-Blackness, white body supremacy, colonialism, occupation, eurocentrism, xenophobia, cisheterosexism, mononormativity, anti-queerness, transmisia, patriarchy, misogyny, misogynoir, rape culture, ableism, neuronormativity, fatism, saneism, classism, capitalism, policing & incarceration, war, terrorism, genocide, anthropocentrism, ageism, faith-based discrimination, and other forms of socioecological violence. (This includes those who are resisting; surviving; critically awakening to; and working to reconcile their shifting and coalescing construction, internalisation, exploitation, subjugation, privilege, and/or complicity in the context of these and other intersecting processes of power and oppression — and necessarily anticipates loving, daring, regenerative dialogue across difference)

• Allowing, honouring, tending to, and digesting the re-creative grief of life’s thousand ‘little deaths’ — changes, endings, losses, undoings, and re-becomings in their myriad shapes and shades

• Mourning and integrating loss of relationship — with partners, friends, family members, community, an identity, a truth, a dream

• Navigating caregiving, mourning, bereavement, illness, death, and dying with holistic and unvarnished presence, contact, compassion, and dignity

• Tending to disenfranchised grief in all its forms (e.g., mourning the death of a loved one by suicide, substance use, MAID, stigmatised illness, state and structural brutality, or gender-based violence; mourning miscarriage, stillbirth, infertility, or abortion; grieving the death of an ex- or poly-partner; grieving a beloved pet; mourning the incarceration of a loved one; grieving the living loss of a beloved to substance use or illness; mourning and mobilising ecological/climate despair and terror; grieving rituals, milestones, and rites of passage lost to capitalism, environmental degradation, illness, and/or pandemic)

• Processing and integrating (your or a loved one’s) diagnosis and/or disability

• Tending to the excruciatingly specific grief of loving, caregiving, loss, and being lost through dementia

• Navigating the relational, gendered, and/or sexual effects of caregiving, disability, illness, treatment, recovery, death, and dying

• Navigating conflict and complex dynamics in families with diverse caregiving capacities, responsibilities, and values

• Re-centering self- and collective care while ‘sandwich’ caregiving for parents and children

• Nurturing self, preventing further harm, and tending to complex and divergent emotions while caregiving or grieving for a loved one with whom there has been conflict, trauma, abuse, and/or estrangement

• Tending to existential fear, anxiety, grief, and anger about ageing, illness, disability, death, and dying

• Exploring, integrating, and expressing advanced care plans and end-​of-​life decisions; processing and honouring a loved one’s plans and decisions. (Note that only physicians and nurse practitioners can provide assessments for Medical Assistance in Dying [MAID] in Ontario, but I can additionally support you in accessing information and expertise about the MAID process, as our work tends to the depths and nuances of your related psychological, emotional, spiritual, and political examinations and experiences)

• Processing, integrating, and repairing relational regrets and ruptures in preparation for end-of-life

• Re-membering, sharing, and metabolising life’s joys and struggles in preparation for holistic changes in health and/or end-of-life

• Nurturing creative, curious, compassionate, and conscious being and becoming across the lifespan

• Re-turning: To work outside the home after parental leave; to recuperation and re-expansion after focused caregiving; to re-beginning relationship with self and others after long term partnership; to formal schooling after educational absence; to potent and possible shifts in career trajectory; to try again after a harmful or disappointing therapeutic experience; to art-full living after professional, neoliberal, and/or curricular annihilation; to body, to beat, to breath

• Reclaiming centre, stillness, and flow outside of the relentless grind of productivity, performance, social comparison, and hustle culture

• Unearthing, exploring, honouring, and reshaping the interconnection between felt sense experience, relational dynamics, and (un)consciously held values

• Reconnecting to the ripe pleasure, playfulness, tenderness, sensuality, and eroticism of life (including, but well beyond, sexuality)

• Re-membering and revelling in the rhythm and flux of paradoxical, cyclical, seasonal living

• Nurturing, protecting, and enabling ethics, self-knowledge, belonging, vulnerability, sensitivity, and sustainability while (re)building a radical life